Necesitamos más funerales

ESPÍRITU Y VERDAD

Por Padre Aaron Williams

Tal parece que cada vez más nos estamos refiriendo al tiempo como “antes de COVID” o “después de COVID.”

 Uno de los efectos de la pandemia de COVID ha sido la tendencia de las familias a solicitar la renuncia a la Misa fúnebre normal y tener simplemente un “servicio junto a la tumba” al aire libre para sus seres queridos fallecidos. Por lo general, esto se hace para evitar reunir a una gran multitud y porque el servicio se lleva a cabo al aire libre junto a la tumba.

 Sin embargo, me temo que también a veces las familias están haciendo uso de esta excusa para evitar el estrés o el gasto que suele conllevar la planificación de un funeral completo. En estas situaciones, por lo general me gusta aconsejar a las personas que es mucho menos probable que se arrepientan de tener un funeral para su ser querido fallecido a que se arrepientan de no haberlo hecho.

Padre Aaron Williams

Pero nosotros, como católicos, no creemos en la necesidad de las Misas fúnebres simplemente porque parece “lo correcto”. Nosotros creemos que la Misa fúnebre católica cumple un trabajo espiritual, que está ausente en un funeral sin Misa y mucho menos en un “servicio junto a la tumba.” Tal vez sea importante mencionar que técnicamente no existe un rito católico para un “servicio junto a la tumba;” simplemente hay un rito del entierro, que siempre se hace junto a una tumba, ya precedido de una Misa fúnebre o no.

El mundo secular ha comenzado a llamar a los funerales “celebraciones de vida”, pero esto se opone fundamentalmente a la comprensión católica de un funeral. Cuando un católico va a un funeral, no estamos allí porque necesitamos celebrar una vida vivida y ahora terminada. En la muerte “la vida se cambia, no se acaba”, decimos en el prefacio fúnebre. Un funeral que simplemente menciona la vida terrenal de una persona niega nuestra creencia en la resurrección y la necesidad muy real que los muertos tienen de nuestras oraciones.

En el Segundo Libro de los Macabeos, escuchamos la historia de Judas Macabeo y sus soldados reuniendo los cuerpos de los que habían caído en la batalla y ofreciendo oraciones y sacrificios por ellos. Esto se hizo porque Judas se dio cuenta de que estos hombres caídos habían cometido el pecado de idolatría y que éste necesitaba ser expiado.

Registra el autor sagrado que después “hicieron una oración para pedir a Dios que perdonara por completo el pecado que habían cometido. El valiente Judas recomendó entonces a todos que se conservaran limpios de pecado, ya que habían visto con sus propios ojos lo sucedido a aquellos que habían caído a causa de su pecado. Después recogió unas dos mil monedas de plata y las envió a Jerusalén, para que se ofreciera un sacrificio por el pecado. Hizo una acción noble y justa, con miras a la resurrección. Si él no hubiera creído en la resurrección de los soldados muertos, hubiera sido innecesario e inútil orar por ellos.” (2 Macabeos 12:42-44).

El propósito fundamental del funeral católico es orar por los muertos, y la oración más eficaz que podemos ofrecer es la Santa Misa. Por lo tanto, no hay mayor oración por nuestros queridos difuntos que una Misa funeral. Al hacerlo, cumplimos una obra de misericordia tanto espiritual como corporal, orando por los muertos y sepultándolos.

Todos los textos y oraciones del funeral católico apuntan a esta doble realidad: (1) que los muertos necesitan oración y purificación a causa de sus pecados y (2) que Dios es misericordioso y nos promete la esperanza de la resurrección a vida eterna. Llegamos al funeral, en palabras del Padre Paul Scalia, predicando en el funeral de su padre, Justin Antonin Scalia, “para prestar nuestras oraciones a ese perfeccionamiento, a esa obra final de la gracia de Dios, al liberar [a los muertos] de todo estorbo del pecado.”

La emoción general de la Misa exequial es la misericordia, razón por la cual, incluso en la liturgia reformada, el color litúrgico prescrito para un funeral es el violeta o el negro. En las Diócesis de los Estados Unidos, el blanco se otorga por indulto como tercera opción “cuando sea pastoralmente apropiado”. Cabe señalar que, en algunas culturas, particularmente en algunas culturas asiáticas, el blanco es el color del luto, lo que lo convierte en una elección adecuada en estos contextos.

La Misa exequial, o Misa de Cuerpo Presente, no es, como algunos la llaman, una “celebración de la resurrección,” pues sabemos que antes de ser elevados a la perfección del cielo, la mayoría de los cristianos deben pasar por la purificación espiritual que Dios ofrece a las almas del purgatorio. Hacemos una gran injusticia a nuestros seres queridos fallecidos al no orar por ellos.

A menudo, cuando planeamos funerales, nos llenamos de emociones difíciles y queremos olvidar la realidad de la muerte distrayéndonos con pensamientos más felices. Pero la verdad es que la muerte es el resultado de la Caída, del pecado de nuestros primeros padres y de nuestra pecaminosidad heredada.

 La esperanza y el gozo de la muerte cristiana es que Cristo pueda purificarnos con su gracia y hacernos dignos de su presencia para siempre. Y podemos prestar nuestra ayuda a este perfeccionamiento por nuestras propias obras de oración, ayuno y limosna y muy especialmente por nuestra ofrenda de la Santa Misa.

Teología en el cine: la nueva Jezabel en la historia Deuteronómica: una reconciliación cuaresmal

¿Vale la pena ver Jezabel protagonizada por Bette Davis, una película de 1938 ambientada en la década de 1850 del sur de Estados Unidos, desde un punto de vista teológico?

La compañía Turner Classic Movies (TCM) lo muestra regularmente. La protagonista, Julie Marston, parece tener poco en común con Jezabel, la enemiga de Elías, en el año 800 a. C. tal y como se ve en el Libro de los Reyes. Sin embargo, al comparar los dos personajes, podemos llegar a una interpretación positiva del código Deuteronómico moral de la Biblia.

Una revisión de las malvadas maniobras de manipulación de Jezabel y su conexión con el Pacto Deuteronómico, la revelará como una influencia de conciencia malvada en la mente de Julie, conspirando para mantener a su hombre en un mundo de negocios de Nueva Orleans de 1852, con la amenaza de la Fiebre amarilla como telón de fondo.

 ¿Existe una lectura más profunda del código Deuteronómico que la simple recompensa y castigo por ser fiel o no al Pacto de Moisés? ¿Tiene Julie una contrición perfecta?

Jezabel llega a Israel a través del Rey Omri, quien sucedió a Salomón y restableció el poder del Reino del Norte con Samaria como base. El Rey casó a su hijo Acab con Jezabel, una fenicia, que vino con su dios pagano Baal, junto con la ambición fenicia en el comercio. Baal es un dios cananeo de la lluvia que promete riqueza y buenas cosechas, sin imponer responsabilidades éticas.

Jezabel y Acab son figuras centrales en las luchas con los principales profetas de la era: Elías y luego Eliseo. Elias gana una batalla de fuego contra sus profetas, poniendo fin a una sequía que infligió a la tierra. El poder general de Jezabel asusta continuamente a Elías. Ella y Acab, en un complot asesino, toman la tierra de Nabot para su viña. Jezabel escribe cartas secretas que finalmente condenan a Nabot. Ella es castigada y muere sin arrepentirse y su cadáver fue devorado por los perros.

James Tomek

Julie Marston es propietaria de una plantación, enamorada de Preston “Pres” Dillard (Henry Fonda) un banquero que persuade a sus colegas de Nueva Orleans para que inviertan en ferrocarriles y fábricas en lugar de la economía fluvial y el trabajo esclavo. Los tratos comerciales de Pres preocupan más su mente, lo que hace que descuide su interés amoroso. Para llamar su atención, Julie recurre sorprendentemente a usar un vestido rojo, reservado solo para las mujeres casadas, en lugar del blanco, el color obligatorio para las mujeres solteras en el Baile anual del Olimpo. También intenta incitar los celos de Pres pidiéndole a su antiguo novio, Buck Cantrell (George Brent), que la lleve al baile. Pres se molesta por ella negarse a su pedido de vestirse de blanco y se niega a sacar a Julie del baile, castigándola y manteniéndola vergonzosamente en la pista de baile. Pres termina su relación con Julie, se va al norte por negocios y regresa con una esposa, Amy.

Julie, en un estado confuso sobre cómo recuperar a Pres, logra provocar la ira entre sus antiguos novios, que son opuestos. Cantrell es un caballero sureño, cómodo con la forma de vida de los esclavos y feliz con un sistema económico que se basa en la esclavitud y el comercio fluvial.  Éste acusa a Pres Dillard, con sus intereses en los ferrocarriles, las fábricas y el trabajo no esclavo, de ser un abolicionista y traidor a la forma de vida sureña. Sus desacuerdos se trasladan al tratamiento de la epidemia de fiebre amarilla. Los conservadores del “Viejo Sur” prefieren pensar que la “plaga” pasa, mientras que los liberales del “Nuevo Sur”, como Pres y el Dr. Livingston, quieren aprender del brote anterior de 1832 y limpiar los pantanos y las calles de la ciudad.

Las manipulaciones de Julie, en lograr que los hombres peleen por ella, fracasan ya que Buck, después de haber insultado a la esposa “yanqui” de su rival, es muerto en un duelo con Ted, el hermano de Pres. Pres mismo es picado por un mosquito portador del virus de la fiebre, mientras que Belle, tía de Julie la etiqueta como una Jezabel, una persona que ha hecho el mal ante los ojos de Dios.

Aunque no es tan maliciosamente malvada como su contraparte bíblica, Julie está poseída por su espíritu intrigante. La Jezabel de la Biblia trae consigo a Baal y a los falsos profetas o ídolos que le permiten justificar su codicia.

 ¿Cuáles son los ídolos en la época de Julie y en la nuestra?

 Los “profetas” que alaban las ganancias serían uno. Soluciones rápidas en lugar de pensar a largo plazo.

Si bien el tratamiento de los negros en esta película está un poco desactualizado, el mensaje de condescendencia de los blancos sigue siendo claro. Julie sufre una conversión, ya que acompañará y cuidará a Pres en la isla “Lazarus”, la colonia condenada para las víctimas de la fiebre. Ella convence a la esposa de Pres del amor de su esposo por ella. La historia termina con Julie en el carro de las víctimas que van hacia su muerte segura. Sin embargo, se siente limpia de nuevo.

 En la historia del Deuteronomio, desde Moisés hasta Josué, Jueces, los Libros de Samuel y el Libro de los Reyes hasta el exilio babilónico de 585 a. C., uno ve que la fidelidad al pacto de Moisés es recompensada, mientras que la desobediencia trae castigo. Si bien este resultado no siempre es cierto, como vemos en Job, se produce una sensación de paz cuando uno hace lo correcto en cuanto al pacto.

El profeta Miqueas resume acertadamente el pacto: hacer el bien, amar la bondad y caminar humildemente con Dios.

Algunos críticos de cine pensaron que la conversión de Julie fue demasiado repentina. Teológicamente, especialmente en los salmos de lamento, la gracia de Dios llega rápida e inmerecidamente. Tome el Salmo 22, por ejemplo, el que leemos el Domingo de Ramos. El que sufre clama: “Dios mío, Dios mío, ¿por qué me has desamparado?” Mire el repentino cambio de fortuna de los versículos 21 al 22.

V 19 Pero tú, Señor, que eres mi fuerza, ¡no te alejes!, ¡ven pronto en mi ayuda!
V 20 Líbrame de morir a filo de espada, no dejes que me maten esos perros,
V 21 Sálvame de la boca de esos leones, ¡defiéndeme de los cuernos de esos toros!

V 22 Yo hablaré de ti a mis hermanos, te alabaré en sus reuniones.

El personaje de Julie es complejo ya que no parece saber lo que quiere. Es una mujer de voluntad fuerte en una sociedad patriarcal. En una de las primeras escenas, se le pone un vestido blanco que es ancho y esponjoso, lo que le da una estatura impresionante. Cuando las modistas le quitan el vestido, vemos su cuerpecito muy delgado dentro de una jaula que servía para mantener el vestido ancho.

Se necesita mucho trabajo para pasar de la apariencia a la realidad. Julie se vuelve real en su arrepentimiento y se mantiene fiel al código de Deuteronomio al hacer el bien a los ojos del Señor.

La recompensa está en el mismo sacramento de la penitencia.

Synod animates five causes of life

Kneading Faith
By Fran Lavelle
We greet another new year in the shadow of the pandemic. The surge in Omicron cases is the latest setback to our return to a ministry of presence. While it may feel like we are never going to get out from under the endless battle against this virus, we have come a long way since the early days of COVID. The years of 2020 and 2021 have given all of us tremendous opportunities for growth, as well as shining moments of hope.

This past fall, I read the book Leading Causes of Life: Five Fundamentals to Change the Way You Live Your Life by Gary Gunderson and Larry M. Pray. The premise of the book is that we study the leading causes of death, but we do not give a similar treatment to the causes of life.

Fran Lavelle

The five causes of life identified by the authors are connection, the breath of air on which our very lives depend; coherence, the idea that life makes sense; agency, the human capacity “to do;” blessing, as a form of gratitude and a conscious effort to pay it forward; and, hope, which is tied to that which we are most connected to.

As one reflects on these five causes it does not take long to recognize how the pandemic has impacted our ability to be connected, find coherence, apply agency, experience blessing and find our hope.

This book was written in 2009, long before we could even conceive of a pandemic. The leading five causes of life held immense value then. They are even more important today. It is not enough to know them; we must live them.

When you see or feel a cause of life is escaping you it is a call for action. Increasing connection, developing coherence, identifying agency, experiencing blessing and naming our hope is within us.

One of the take-aways from our time sheltering in place was recognizing the importance of productive, intentional, lifegiving service, not mere busyness. I was challenged to look at where I see the causes of life in my ministry and my daily living. Gratefully, I discovered that the causes of my life are alive and well-forgive the pun. Chief among the activities that are lifegiving is my current role in working with the Synod on Synodality for the diocese.

The Synod is animating all five causes of life. I had the opportunity to visit Christ the King parish in Southaven for their first of several sessions. It was a gift to watch the process unfold. I witnessed the signs of life blossoming before me. The room was a buzz with friendly conversation and connection. I witnessed coherence as members of the parish were prayerful in discerning the Holy Spirit’s call.

In their responses to the process, I heard their call for agency in naming the positive changes they can affect. Blessing was abundant in their response to the needs of the larger community for those who are struggling economically, physically or spiritually. I left the session with a great deal of hope that we have been changed for the better because we took the time to stop and listen, pray and share, and dream.

At the synod session break, I was approached by a young boy, about nine years of age. He politely asked me if he could get me anything to drink. I requested a cup of black coffee, which he delivered with great enthusiasm. We exchanged a few more words and he went back to his table.

Over the next few days, I could not stop thinking about the hospitality this thoughtful child showed to me, the joy in which he served, or the way he conducted himself. He seemed far too self-possessed for a boy his age-or was he? I am certain I will recall him as we continue to discern our path forward as church. He reminded me of what is truly at stake. This young boy is not the future of the church, he is, as Pope Francis would say, the church of the now.

Finding a way back to one another after two years of separation, political division and unspeakable loss is not an easy task. The promise in our future is not that it will be void of difficulty. The promise in our future is that we do not walk alone in the journey. God promised when two or three are gathered in his name he is with us. With that hope let us animate the causes of life in our communities. It is our great diversity that makes us One, Holy, Catholic and Apostolic.

(Fran Lavelle is the Director of Faith Formation for the Diocese of Jackson.)

Mental health awareness

GUEST COLUMN
By By Reba J. McMellon, M.S., LPC
Mental health awareness has almost become a buzz phrase. You hear it in in the Olympics, certainly in response to the pandemic, and “Hipsters” are all into it.

Being aware of one’s mental health is one thing. Doing something about it is another.

Have you ever been told, “Maybe you should go talk to somebody?” It’s a suggestion that can set you back on your heels. I was told this during a conversation and my first thought was, “I am talking to somebody, I’m talking to YOU.”

Reba J. McMellon, M.S.,LPC

Having someone suggest you could benefit from counseling can be off-putting. However, counseling is a valuable service and most people would do well by giving it a shot. But where do you begin? How do you find a good counselor or psychologist? It’s not an easy subject to approach. The following are a few indications that professional counseling is warranted:
• If the problem has been bothersome for years and no matter whom you talk to it keeps coming back.
• If you suffer silently and feel embarrassed by emotional symptoms that are uncomfortable to discuss with people you know.
• You have a problem that is seriously interfering with your quality of life.
Research has repeatedly shown the number one factor that predicts positive outcome in counseling is the connection between counselor and client. You will know within the first three visits if the counseling relationship is working for you. Do not let guilt or vulnerability be a factor in maintaining a therapeutic relationship that is uncomfortable. Don’t fall into the “it must be me” trap.

If you like your physician, ask if they could provide a referral. Your minister or clergy should also have a list of counselors they would recommend. An even better way to find a counselor is to ask a friend who has been to counseling for a referral. Referrals can come from anyone you trust with good sense.

A second way to find a counselor to talk to is through your health insurance. Ask what providers they cover and about their credentials.

Ask the counselor a few questions. For instance, ask about his or her office hours. Ask about licensure, credentials and experience. What university did they attend? Tell them just a little something about your issue, and then ask what their approach to counseling is. Sometimes counselor’s will only answer these question in the first session, but be sure to ask them.

If you are steeped in a certain religion that is important to you, tell them this ahead of time and ask if this would pose any problem.

The things you should listen for are:
• Openness to answering your questions. This does not mean going into detail about your presenting problem, just openness to answering your questions and concerns.
• Does it feel like you can connect with this person? If they give you the “willies” on the phone, they are likely to give you the “willies” in person.
• Does it sound like they would welcome you as a client? Haughty or distant are not good signs.
Prices vary due to the level of education but not necessarily due to the quality of service. Again, your health insurance may be a help in in this area.

The most important point is that some people are truly wonderful matches and others have the credentials and training but lack the style or personality you need. Consider going outside your immediate geographical range, if necessary.

Try not to be derailed by the “stigma” of seeking professional counseling. Emotional healing and behavior change can lead to a healthier spiritual and physical life.

The healthiest people I know are the ones who have sense enough to want help, to seek it out and stick with it.

(Reba J. McMellon is a freelance writer, columnist and consultant. She lives in Jackson and can be reached at rebaj@bellsouth.net.)

What we do in private

IN EXILE
By Father Ron Rolheiser, OMI
No one is an island; indeed, no one is ever really alone. If you are a person of faith or even just someone with a highly attuned intuitive sense, you will know that there is no such thing as a truly private act, for good or bad. Everything we do, no matter how private, affects others. We aren’t isolated monads whose private thoughts and acts have no effect on anyone else. We know this, and not just from our faith. We know it intuitively by what we sense in our lives.

How do we sense what lies hidden in the privacy of other people’s lives? Conversely, how does what happens in the privacy of our own lives affect others?

Padre Ron Rolheiser, OMI

We don’t have a metaphysics, a phenomenology, or a science through which we can tease this out explicitly. We just know it is true. What we do in the private recesses of our hearts and minds is in some ways sensed by others. Every religion worthy of the name teaches this, namely that we are all in some real, mystical, symbiotic communion with each other where ultimately nothing is truly private. This belief is shared by basically all the great world religions – Christianity, Hinduism, Buddhism, Islam, Taoism, and American and African Native religions. No religion allows for a private sin that does not affect the whole community.

This explains some of Jesus’ teachings. Jesus teaches that it’s not only our outward actions that help or hurt others; it’s also our innermost thoughts. For him, not only may we not do harm to someone we hate, we may not even think hateful thoughts about him in our private thoughts. Likewise, it not enough to discipline ourselves sexually so as to not commit adultery, we have to even discipline the erotic thoughts we have about others.

Why? What’s the harm in private thoughts? It is more than the danger that if we think certain bad thoughts about others, we will eventually act them out (true though this may be). What is at issue is something deeper, something contained explicitly in the Christian notion of the Body of Christ.

As Christians, we believe that we are all members of one living organism, the Body of Christ, and that our union with each there is more than metaphorical. It is real, as real as the physicality of a living body. We are not a corporation, but a living body, a living organism, where all parts affect all other parts. Hence, just as in a live body, healthy enzymes help bring health to the whole body, and infected and cancerous cells threaten the health of the whole body, so too inside the Body of Christ. What we do in private is still inside the body. Consequently, when we do virtuous things, even in private, like a healthy enzyme, we help strengthen the immune system within the whole body. Conversely, when we are unfaithful, when we are selfish, when we sin, no matter that this is only done in private, like an infected or cancerous cell, we are helping break down the immune system in the body. Both healthy enzymes and harmful cancer cells work in secret, below the surface.

This has important implications for our private lives. Simply put, nothing we think or do in private does not have an effect on others. Our private thoughts and actions, like healthy enzymes or infected cells, affect the health of the body, either strengthening or weakening its immune system. When we are faithful, we help bring health to the body; when we are unfaithful, we are an infected cell challenging the immune system within the body.

Whether we are faithful or unfaithful in private affects others, and this is not something that is abstract or mystical. For example, a spouse knows when his or her partner is unfaithful, irrespective of whether or not the affair is exposed. Moreover, the spouse knows this not just because there may be subtle betrayals of the infidelity in the other’s body language and behavior. No, she knows this at a gut level, inchoately, mystically, because in some dark inexplicable way she senses the betrayal as a strain on the health and integrity of their marriage. This may sound more metaphorical than real, but I invite you to check it out in life. We feel infidelity.

We know some things consciously and others unconsciously. We know certain things through observation and others intuitively. We know through our heads, our hearts, and our guts, and through all three of these faculties, sometimes (because inside of a body all parts affect each other) we know something because we sense it as either a tension or a comfort inside our soul. There are no private acts. Our private acts, like our public ones, are either bringing health or disease to the community.

I leave the last words to the poets: If you are here faithfully, you bring great blessing. (Parker Palmer) If you are here unfaithfully, you bring great harm. (Rumi)

(Oblate Father Ron Rolheiser is a theologian, teacher and award-winning author. He can be contacted through his website www.ronrolheiser.com.)

Called by name

Editor’s note: Father Nick Adam was on retreat at press time. He will return in our next edition. Enjoy this summary of upcoming Vocations events.

Father Nick hosted a Vocations Summit at St. Francis Madison on Tuesday, Jan. 11 to gather together discerners and vocation supporters to network and learn more about what the Vocations department will be offering this year.
A replay of the event can be viewed on the Diocese Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/JacksonDiocese/videos/968407680439994/

Vocations Calendar

Below is the preliminary calendar Father Nick shared at the Vocations Summit to help discerners and volunteers plan for events this year. Please let him know if you have men/women who would be interested and he will add them to his contact lists so they are in the loop:

February/March 2022
– Young Women’s Nun Run to Hanceville/Nashville/Alton, Illinois

April 8-10, 2022
– Young Men’s Seminary Come and See – St. Joseph Seminary College, Covington, Louisiana

June 3-5, 2022
Chosen Men’s and Women’s Discernment Weekend (College Age and Over) – St. Joseph Abbey and Seminary College, Covington, Louisiana

Summer 2022
– Quo Vadis Summer Discernment Days (Young Men Ages 15-25) -– Our Lady of Hope, Chatawa, Mississippi

Fall 2022

  • Third annual Homegrown Harvest Festival and Fundraiser

November 18-20, 2022
Quo Vadis Fall Discernment Days (with the Diocese of Baton Rouge, for Young Men Ages 15-25) – Camp Abbey, Covington, Louisiana

Save the Date

Deacon Andrew Bowden’s Priestly Ordination will be on Saturday, May 14 at 10:30 a.m. at the Cathedral of St. Peter the Apostle in Jackson.

Carlisle Beggerly’s ordination to the Diaconate (transitional) will be on Saturday, June 4 at 10:30 a.m. at Immaculate Conception West Point, Carlisle’s home parish.

If you are interested in learning more about religious orders or vocations to the priesthood and religious life, visit www.jacksonpriests.com or email nick.adam@jacksondiocese.org.

Called by name

The road to priesthood is a long-haul. Once a man is accepted as a seminarian for the diocese, he can spend anywhere from 6-9 years in preparation for ordained ministry. During those years, he must be docile to the Holy Spirit and to the instruction of the church in order to be well-prepared to serve the People of God in his diocese. Priestly formation focuses on four dimensions of development: human, spiritual, intellectual and pastoral. In the next four issues I will take each of these dimensions and break it down.

Father Nick Adam
Father Nick Adam

            The human dimension is the “everyday” dimension of the man. What habits/character traits/virtues of a candidate create a bridge between himself and his flock as he helps to lead them to the Lord? What habits/character traits/vices create a stumbling block? This is the most basic part of priestly formation, and the human dimension is developed with the most basic of requirements in the seminary. Do you wake up on time for prayer? Are you pleasant at the breakfast table? What are your conversation skills? Are you comfortable speaking with someone who is much older/younger than you?

            Everyone will be at a different stage of development when they enter the seminary, but we all have traits that we can hone and develop as we seek to better relate to our surroundings. I believe that one of the most important traits that a man seeking priesthood must have is self-awareness. If we are humbly aware of our struggles and imperfections and we are honest about them, then we can move forward in peace and really seek to find the Lord in that struggle for improvement, but if we seek to hide our flaws from others and act like they are not there, then this is a recipe for misery, both for ourselves or those around us.

            The seminary is a place where honest and open communication about human formation is encouraged. Seminarians are encouraged to “fraternally correct” their peers if they witness a human formation issue themselves. Candidates regularly meet with a formation adviser who serves as a mirror for the man as he lives in the community, and yearly self-evaluations and faculty evaluations provide updates on progress. Human formation, however, continues for a lifetime. We are all called to be (as Bishop Robert Barron would term it) “great-souled,” men and women who are open to others and serve as witnesses to Christ’s love in the world. Human formation in the seminary provides many practical tools for men to be good, well-adjusted and helpful priests, but that work must continue beyond ordination.

At the origins of our universe – Jesus and the Big Bang

IN EXILE
By Father Ron Rolheiser, OMI
Recently NASA launched the James Webb Space Telescope into space, the biggest and most expensive telescope ever built. It will take six months for it to travel a million miles from the earth, find its permanent place in space, and then start transmitting pictures back to earth. Those pictures will be such as have never seen before. The hope is that it will enable us to see much further into space than we’ve ever seen before, ideally to the very ends of our still expanding universe, right to the first particles that issued forth from the original explosion, the Big Bang, that began time and our universe.

Scientists estimate that our universe began 13.7 billion years ago. As far as we know, prior to that there was nothing in existence, as we understand that today (except for God). Then, out of this seeming nothingness, there was an explosion (the Big Bang) out of which everything in the universe including our planet earth formed. As with any explosion, the parts that were the most intimately intertwined with the expelling force are those driven furthest away. Thus, when investigators try to determine the cause of an explosion they are particularly interested in finding and examining those pieces that were most closely tied to the original force of the explosion, and generally those pieces have been blown furthest away.

Father Ron Rolheiser, OMI

The force of the Big Bang is still going on and those parts of our universe that were most intimately intertwined with its beginnings are still being driven further and further into space. Scientists are investigators, probing that original explosion. What the James Webb Space Telescope hopes to see is some of the original parts from that unimaginable explosion that gave birth to our universe because these parts were there at the very beginning, at the origins of everything that exists. By seeing and examining them, science hopes to better understand the origins of our universe.

Looking at the excitement scientists feel around this new telescope and their hopes that it will show us pictures of particles from the beginning of time, can help us understand why the Evangelist, John, has trouble restraining his enthusiasm when he talks about Jesus in his first Epistle. He is excited about Jesus because, among other things, Jesus was there at the beginnings of the universe and indeed at the beginnings of everything. For John, Jesus is a mystical telescope through which we might view that primordial explosion that created the universe, since he was there when it happened.

Let me risk paraphrasing the beginning of the First Epistle of John (1:1-4) as he might have written it for our generation vis-a-vis our curiosity about the origins of our universe:

You need to understand of whom and what I am speaking:
Jesus wasn’t just some extraordinary person who performed a few miracles or even who rose from the dead.
We are speaking of someone who was there at the very origins of creation, who himself is the foundation for that creation, who was with God when “the Big Bang” occurred, and even before that.
Incredibly, we actually got to see him in the flesh, with human eyes, the God who created “the Big Bang,” walking among us!
We actually touched him bodily.
We actually spoke with him and listened to him speak, he who was there at the origins of our universe, there when “the Big Bang” took place!
Indeed, he is the One who pulled the switch to set it off, with a plan in mind as to where it should go, a plan that includes us.
Do you want to probe more deeply into what happened at our origins?
Well, Jesus is a mystical telescope to look through.
After all, he was there at the beginning and unbelievably we got to see, hear, and touch him bodily!
Excuse my exuberance, but we got to walk and talk with someone who was there at the beginning of time.


There are different kinds of knowledge and different kinds of wisdom, along with different avenues for accessing each of them. Science is one of those avenues, an important one. For far too long theology and religion did not consider it a friend. That was (and remains) a tragic mistake since science has the same founder and same intent as theology and religion. Theology and religion have been wrong whenever they have sought to undercut science’s importance or its claims to truth. Sadly, science has often returned the favor and viewed theology and religion as a foe rather than as a colleague. The two need each other, not least in understanding the origins and intent of our universe.

How do we understand the origins and intent of our universe? Science and Jesus. Science is probing those origins in the interest of telling us how it happened and how it is unfolding, while Jesus (who was there when it happened) is more interested in telling us why it happened and what it means.

(Oblate Father Ron Rolheiser is a theologian, teacher and award-winning author. He can be contacted through his website www.ronrolheiser.com.)

Holy forgetting

From the hermitage
By sister alies therese
In England I was blessed to know an Anglican priest, Robert Llewelyn, who for many years was the chaplain at the Julian Shrine in Norwich. I lived some twenty miles away and went there frequently. Of his several books, a favorite is Prayer and Contemplation (SLG Press, Oxford, 1977). In chapter seven, he considers contemplation and the cloud of forgetting – some help to me.

As we age forgetfulness shows up … names, things, why I’m doing this, where was I going? etc. These seem quite negative and often cause us to wonder where we are on the dementia continuum.

I heard about a psychiatrist speaking before a group of seniors about dementia. Key to his rather clinical explanations was this delightful indicator. He asked how many had lost their keys. Most raised their hands. Then he asked how many found them? Most raised their hands. That is not dementia he told them. This is: did you know what to do with the keys when you found them? This caused some laughter and he laughed too. Holy forgetting is not quite the same!
This holy forgetting that Robert writes about is from The Cloud of Unknowing an old 14th century text, written by the author to a young disciple who wanted training in prayer. These ‘clouds’ help us focus on God in prayer. For example, one of the most important things to put under this cloud of forgetting is past sins, confessed and forgiven. Yes, they come into our minds … that distracts us. In Chapter 31 of The Cloud:
“…sins (new or old) try to cover them with the thick cloud of forgetting as though they had never been committed by you or anyone else …”

sister alies therese

Robert then goes on to remind us that he is not talking about repression (nor was the author of The Cloud) … that is dangerous. “That,” he says, “is a compulsory and involuntary forgetting or experience of memories which the mind has found too painful to retain in conscious thought.” These are mental health issues to be sorted and healed in other ways.

Robert is concerned rather with trying to heal involuntary distractions (and even voluntary ones), so that we are able to pray, focused on God. “We are,” he says, “poor apart from God’s enabling strength and it may well be that this awareness is our deepest need.” (page 80)

Without this strength we can do nothing. Our goal is to ultimately behold God and in our daily life we see the many wonderful, unique, and marvelous works of God … but not quite God. What we want, Robert reminds us, is to come to the prayer of the Holy Spirit who “gives us the ‘best’ prayer, whether seen as being for God’s glory or as a meeting of our need for deliverance: twin aspects of prayer that must be held together.”

“But once our sights,” he concludes, “have been truly set on God, with the desire and intention that in God’s grace they will remain so, we need not fear these invaders of our imagination. What now becomes necessary is to pay them no attention.” When this is practiced, we find healing. “Try to forget created things, let them go … sit in the darkness as long as it takes … go on longing after the God you love, never giving up.”

Mark Lowry, Christian humorist, musician and writer noted this: “I look forward … but the memories can be greater.” He talks of how his PawPaw couldn’t remember much near his end … “except the Sunday dinners on the ground and singing in the male quartet. He sat and looked forward to the coming of the Lord … where memories and plans are the same. And I’m sure,” he quips, “over the door into heaven there is a sign: No Wheelchairs, Hospital Beds, or Bedpans Allowed!” Great things to forget!

(Sister alies therese is a canonically vowed hermit with days formed around prayer and writing.)

Welcome to 2022!

On Ordinary Times
By Lucia A. Silecchia
On New Year’s Eve, I found myself in a favorite small town donut shop in Pennsylvania. While many may crave more lavish year end celebrations, for me it is good company, hot coffee and a fresh donut bursting with coconut custard that make a sweet way to bid farewell to one year and greet the next.

The cashier at the donut shop was handing out calendars that day. The one she gave me will find its way into my office where, for twelve months, it will keep me constantly craving donuts.

In coffee shops, banks, grocery stores, churches, repair shops and stationary stores everywhere, calendars are scattered at the start of a new year. Perhaps, the paper calendar is in decline a bit as many live by online schedules and the ever-present daily data from smart phones. Yet, I hope that the paper calendar endures. It is a tangible sign of the gift of time. The calendars we hold in our hands, tack on our walls, keep on our desks, or toss in piles of papers are simple reminders to entrust the new year to God.

Lucia A. Silecchia

The pages of our calendars may already have notes about what is expected to happen in 2022. The pages are preprinted with holidays, observances, and the starts and ends of seasons. Calendars of a religious nature highlight the feast days and liturgical seasons that mark our walk through this life on our way to the eternal.

We also mark on the pages those events that we ourselves plan for 2022. We record routine obligations, vacation plans, birthdays, anniversaries, graduations and the special events and celebrations that we hope will lie ahead in the months to come.

Yet, most of the days of the calendar hold the unknown because the futures held in those days are still hidden. They are in the hands of God and will stay safely there as they unfold.

Right now, when I look at the donut shop calendar, I do not know which days will bring unexpected joys. I cannot predict what days will record meetings with students who have painful struggles or dinners with friends to share exciting news or newfound fears.

I see blank pages now where new adventures will take place and days that will be spent with those I love. I know that many meetings will be added to the schedule – and with uncertainty I wonder whether I will have the wisdom or insight to make the most of them.

I cannot tell now if there will be medical appointments on any of those days when I or someone I love receives bad news. I cannot tell which days will go well, and which will leave me yearning for the chance to re-do something I did or said.

I do not yet know if I will use the days of this new year wisely and keep enough time for prayer and contemplation. Somehow, for me, that which is most important never gets scheduled at all.

I cannot tell if there are days ahead when my schedule includes commitments I should have declined – or fails to include commitments I should have made. I do not know which days I will have an opportunity to say or do something that helps another along life’s path, or whether I will take or waste that opportunity.

I do not know which days might hold first meetings with those who may become lifelong friends. I do not know which days I might hold a newborn seeing the world for the first time or clasp the hand of an elder seeing the world for the last time.

Most profoundly, I do not know if, on any of the days on my calendar, I will ever mark a small cross – something my mother always did on her calendar when someone she loved passed from this life. I do not know if there will be a day on which my own entries themselves will stop because I cannot presume that I will have any day beyond today.
Perhaps when you look at your calendar you sense the same “unknown-ness” that I do. It fills me with hope and a deep sense of how much I need to entrust the 365 days on my donut shop calendar to God.

For all of us, the dark (but lengthening!) days of January may be the right time to briefly hold our calendars in our hands or look at them hanging on our walls and pray that the days they mark will hold only what is good, holy and healthy for body and spirit. It is a chance to pray, together, that we can be good and faithful stewards of the time we are given, that we will give more than we receive and that even the most ordinary days will be traveled with reverence for how extraordinary the gift of days is. With these hopes is a prayer that God will strengthen, help, guide and bless all of us embarking on our new days of ordinary time.

Happy New Year! May God bless you and yours.

(Lucia A. Silecchia is a Professor of Law at the Columbus School of Law at the Catholic University of America. “On Ordinary Times” is a biweekly column reflecting on the ways to find the sacred in the simple. Email her at silecchia@cua.edu.)