Can You Lose Your Vocation?

Father Ron Rolheiser

IN EXILE
By Father Ron Rolheiser, OMI
Recently I received a letter from a man who shared that he was still deeply haunted by a story he’d heard in grade-school many years before. One of his religion teachers had read them a story about a priest who went to visit a childhood friend. While staying with his friend, the priest noticed that, while his friend was cheerful and affable enough, he seemed to be harboring some deep, residual sadness. When he asked his friend about it his friend confessed that he “had lost his salvation” because he had felt a call to priesthood when he was young but had chosen instead to marry. Now, he felt, there was no existential redemption from that. He had had a vocation and lost it and, with that, also lost for good his chance at happiness. Though happily enough married, he felt that he would bear forever the stigma of having been being unfaithful in not accepting his God-given vocation.
I was raised on stories like that. They were part of the Catholicism of my youth. We were taught to believe that God marked out a certain vocation for you, that is, to be a priest, a sister, a married person, or a single person in the world, and if you didn’t accept that, once you knew your calling, then you had “missed” or “lost” your vocation and the consequence would an abiding sadness and even the danger of missing heaven. Such were the vocation stories of my youth, and, truth be told, I went to the seminary to become a priest with that lingering as a shadow in my mind. But it was only a shadow. I didn’t enter religious life and priesthood out of fear, though some moral fears did play a part in it, as they should. Fear can also be a healthy thing.
But it can also be unhealthy. It’s not healthy to understand both God and your vocation in terms that can have you missing out on happiness and salvation on the basis on singular choice made while you are still young. God doesn’t work like that.
It’s true that we are called by God to a vocation which we are meant to discern through conscience, through community, through circumstance, and through the talents that we’ve been given. For a Christian, existence does not preceded essence. We’re born with a purpose, with a mission in life. There are many clear texts in scripture on this: Jesus, praying for entire nights to know his Father’s will; Peter, conscripted on a rock being led by a belt that took him where he did not want to go; Paul being led into Damascus and instructed by an elder as to his vocation; Moses being called to do a task because he saw the suffering of the people; and all of us being challenged to use our talents or be stripped of them. We’re all called to mission and so each of us has a vocation. We’re not morally free to live our lives simply for ourselves.
But God doesn’t give us just one chance which, if we miss it or turn down, will leave us sad forever. No. God opens a new door every time we close one. God gives us 77×7 chances and more after that, if needed. The question of vocation is not so much a question of guessing right (What very specifically was I predestined for?) but rather a question of giving oneself over in faith and love to the situation that we’ve chosen (or which more often than not has by circumstance chosen us). We should not live in unhealthy fear about this. God continues to love us and desires our happiness, even when we don’t always follow to where we are ideally called.
Recently I heard a homily in a church in which the priest compared God to a GPS, a Global Positioning System, that is, that computerized instrument, complete with human voice, that countless people have today in their cars and which gives them ongoing instructions on how to get to their destination. One of its features is this: No matter how many times you disregard or disobey its command, the voice never expresses impatience, yells at you, or gives up on you. It simply says “Recalculating”. Sooner or later, no matter how many times you disregard it, it gets you home.
Delightful as is that image, it’s still but a very weak analogy in terms of understanding God’s patience and forgiveness. None of us should be haunted, long-term, by sadness and fear because we feel that we’ve missed our vocation, unless we are living a selfish life. Selflessness rather than selfishness, a life in pursuit of service rather than a life in pursuit of comfort, not guessing correctly, constitutes one’s vocation. Our Christian vocation is to make what we are in fact living – married, priest, religious, single in the world – a life of selflessness and service to others. Happiness and salvation are contingent upon that, not upon guessing correctly.
(Oblate Father Ron Rolheiser, theologian, teacher and award-winning author, is President of the Oblate School of Theology in San Antonio, TX.)

Gulf Coast Faith Formation Conference builds hope, encourages catechists

By Cathy Hayden
KENNER, La. – The Diocese of Jackson was well-represented among about 1,200 Catholics who attended the Jan. 11-13 Gulf Coast Faith Formation Conference in Kenner, La.
Among the parishes sending catechetical leaders to the “Go! Build a Future of Hope” conference were Pearl St. Jude, Natchez St. Mary, Yazoo City St. Mary and Jackson Holy Family. Most of those attending the 36th annual conference were lay ministers to children, youth and adults in dioceses throughout Alabama, Florida, Louisiana, Mississippi and Texas.
“For the Diocese of Jackson, we are fortunate to have such a first-rate conference that is very reasonably priced and offers such great quality speakers, workshops and vendors. I love seeing our folks there,” said Fran Lavelle, director of the Office of Faith Formation and Religious Education for the Diocese of Jackson.
Lavelle, a member of the planning committee, said the theme of “hope” was discerned in 2016 and was “truly the work of the Holy Spirit … A huge part of the success of the conference (is) that we really trust the Holy Spirit and one another.”
Over the three days, participants were challenged to withstand today’s cultural storms and were rejuvenated with talks centering around hope inspired by Pope Francis’ recently published “On Hope.”
“The conference was very enjoyable, with sessions that pertained to a variety of ministries and some that simply nourished the soul,” said Margaret Riordan of St. Jude. “In addition to the talks that included information on music and liturgy, I especially enjoyed the session on ‘Praying Our Lives: Hope for the Restless Heart,’ which introduced the Ignatian Examen.”
Gladys Russell of Jackson Holy Family Parish goes to the conference every chance she can get. “Each time I have been able to attend the Gulf Coast Faith Formation Conference, I have left with information on new ways to meet the Faith Formation needs of our parishioners,” said Russell. “Information shared at this years conference, from research done on ‘why young people leave the church,’ was especially helpful. I hope we at Holy Family, will be able to use the information to keep our young people involved in parish life,” she added.

KENNER, La., Mary Birmingham presents “Catechesis and the Catechumenate” at the Gulf Coast Faith Formation Conference. Helen Benson, director of religious education for Vicksburg St. Michael is visible in the red sweater. (Photo by Rhonda Bowden)

Keynote speakers included an opening day tag team presentation by Dr. Veronica Rayas, director of the Office of Faith Formation for the Diocese of El Paso Texas, and Dr. Joe Paprocki, a national consultant for faith formation at Loyola Press. The two of them laid the groundwork for the rest of the conference. With families no longer living in a Catholic “bubble,” they declared the current catechesis delivery “broken” and in need of repair.
“We have a new reality. The answer is not in the past,” he said.
Among Paprocki’s suggestions to repair were 1. Instigating faith instead of indoctrinating, 2. Forming small faith groups, 3. Empowering parents to be primary catechists and 4. Empowering adults to share their faith with one another.
Adding to that, Rayas emphasized that, especially with young people, the most powerful catechetical pathways are community, prayer and service.
On day two, psychologist Dr. Tim Hogan used humor in describing today’s “cultural hurricane” with revolutionary changes in technology, economic, information, relationships and religion disrupting the patterns of life we once knew. He described the result as an opportunity for responding by “priming ourselves for gratitude” instead of negativity.
Wrapping up the third day was Brian Butler, executive director of Dumb Ox Ministries, who inspired with stories of hope coming from often dark circumstances. “We have to choose to hope,” he said.
Breakout sessions appealed to a variety of church ministries, all targeting how to bring hope through catechesis to children, youth and adults.
“One could not leave “Go! Build a Future of Hope” without feeling renewed HOPE,” said Joyce Brasfield Adams, coordinator of Faith Formation at Jackson Holy Family Parish. “Each keynote speaker and each concurrent session leader gave concrete examples and practical ways to continue to hope. The session that touched me most deeply was, ‘Making Hope Real,’ led by Becky Eldredge. She led us into prayer with the acronym HOPE (Hark, Open, Pray and Encounter) based on Mark 2: 1-12. The session was not just a presentation, but a spiritual experience.”
(Cathy Hayden, a member of the RCIA team at St. Jude in Pearl, received a Master of Theological Studies degree from Spring Hill College in May 2017. She is director of Public Relations at Hinds Community College. See her related column on page 12.)

Father Joseph Dyer retires

FOREST – Father Joseph Dyer celebrated his retirement with a Mass at the Crudup Community Center in Forest on Sunday, Jan. 14. The St. Michael community gave him a beautiful farewell which included a trilingual (English, Spanish and Vietnamese) Mass celebrated by Bishop Joseph Kopacz. Bishop Kopacz thanked him for his almost 40-years of service in the diocese. In his remarks, Father Joe thanked his parish community for their love. (Photos by Sister Maria Elena Mendez)

Bishop Kopacz Schedule

Sunday, Jan. 28, – Friday, Feb. 2 – National Catholic Schools Week
Monday Jan. 29, 9:15 a.m. – Mass, Greenville St. Joseph
Tuesday Jan. 30, 8:15 a.m. – Mass, Jackson St. Richard
Tuesday Jan. 30, 1 p.m. – Mass, Jackson Sister Thea Bowman
Wednesday, Jan. 31, 8:15 a.m. – Mass, Madison St. Anthony
Wednesday, Jan. 31, 9:50 a.m. – Mass, Madison St. Joseph
Wednesday, Jan. 31, 1 p.m. – Mass, Vicksburg Catholic School
Thursday, Feb. 1, 8 a.m. – Mass, Natchez Cathedral School
Sunday, Feb. 4, 10:30 a.m. – Closing Mass – Diocesan Youth Convention, Vicksburg
Sunday, Feb. 4, 3 p.m. World Marriage Day, Jackson, St. Peter Cathedral
Monday, Feb. 5 – 16, Holy Sepulchre Trip to the Holy Land

Only public events are listed on this schedule and all events are subject to change.
Please check with the local parish for further details

Todavía aprendiendo de los fundadores de la educación católica

Obispo Joseph Kopacz

La Semana de las Escuelas católicas se celebra este año del 28 de enero al 3 de febrero en donde quiera que una diócesis en todo el territorio de los Estados Unidos es bendecida de tener un sistema de enseñanza católica. El tema de este año es: Escuelas Católicas: Aprende. Sirve. Dirige. Ten éxito. Nuestro legado de escuelas en la Diócesis de Jackson se remonta a 1847 en Natchez, antes de extenderse hacia Vicksburg y Greenville y luego gradualmente hacia el este en el estado de Mississippi. Debido a que nuestra diócesis fue la 13ª Diócesis Católica establecida en la nación la tradición de nuestras escuelas católicas comenzó no mucho después de que las primeras escuelas católicas fueran abiertas en los Estados Unidos. La madre y el padre, fundadores de la educación católica, fueron Santa Isabel Ana Seton y San Juan Neumann. Isabel Ana Seton, 1784-1821, fue una creyente Episcopal a través de la mitad de su vida, y esposa y madre de seis hijos que siempre encontró el tiempo para obras benéficas y de acercamiento.
Ella se convirtió al catolicismo tras la muerte de su marido, y en un corto periodo de tiempo fundó las Hijas de la Caridad basada en la regla de San Vicente de Paúl y su comunidad religiosa en Francia. Su misión se convirtió en la educación basada en la fe, envolviéndose en un profundo y desconocido campo. Fundó la primera escuela católica en los Estados Unidos en 1812, y para 1818 las hermanas habían establecido dos orfanatos y otra escuela. En la actualidad, seis grupos de hermanas pueden trazar sus orígenes a la fundación inicial de la Madre Seton. Los siguientes son extractos de los escritos y la sabiduría de esta gran matriarca.
“Comparto sus luchas como educadores de hoy, y estoy con ustedes en esa lucha. Los signos de los tiempos les ruegan que sean espiritualmente maduros para fomentar un clima de renacimiento misionero fiel a (mi) legado por la educación católica. Están convencidos de la necesidad de una visión estratégica en nombre del Evangelio? ¿Están dispuestos a correr el riesgo de llevar a cabo nuevas ideas que respondan a la necesidad humana absoluta?
¿Qué necesidades insatisfechas existen en tu colegio, parroquia o comunidad que puedes abordar de manera realista? ¿Cómo interactúas con los sectores públicos y privados y las redes escolares en casa? ¿Qué nuevos programas o cursos beneficiarían a tus estudiantes o a atraer nuevos? ¿Qué servicios oportunos ofrecen ustedes actualmente que pueden ampliarse a otros? Hay maneras para que usted pueda combinar esfuerzos y recursos para otras nuevas?
¿Qué mejoras pueden introducirse mediante la adopción de nuevas técnicas? Los invito a discutir si su definición de educación realmente satisface las cambiantes necesidades de la sociedad.
En su papel como educadores, céntrense en la persona entera, enseñen la lección y toquen el corazón. Por encima de todo amigos, enseñen a sus alumnos acerca del amor de Dios por ellos. ¡Oh! Fijen su mirada en el futuro y siempre traten de educar a sus alumnos para el mundo en que están destinados a vivir.
Las buenas relaciones de la casa y la escuela fueron muy importantes para mí y a menudo me comunico con los padres acerca del progreso de sus hijos, o la falta de este. Yo les digo que sé que los padres americanos les es más difícil oír las faltas de sus hijos.
He intentado varios métodos de disciplina pero siempre con firmeza suave. He descubierto que la pérdida de recreación, la privación de una fruta, o el pago de un centavo por buenas obras, a menudo ha funcionado bien. Arrodillarse, también era la única forma de castigo físico que permití.
No acepté ninguna forma de prejuicio o discriminación. La inclusión fue mi objetivo. Mi escuela fue fundada en los valores perennes del respeto y la igualdad. Ruego que se tenga en cuenta que la compasión cristiana auténtica se expresa universalmente y no de manera selectiva. Esto se extiende a los niños de la montaña que son pobres, a los niños de Pennsylvania Dutch, y a los niños africano-americanos de los esclavos y de padres libres a los que yo mismo enseñé”. Sus Hijas de la Caridad llegaron a Natchez en 1847 y permanecieron hasta el 2003. Santa Isabel Ana Seton fue beatificada en 1963 y canonizada en 1976.
El patriarca de educación de la escuela católica es San Juan Neumann, quien nació en 1811 en Bohemia, en la República Checa moderna. Después de viajar a América fue ordenado y entró en la orden redentorista y sirvió fielmente a los pobres en Buffalo, Nueva York. El Padre Juan Neumann fue nombrado obispo de Filadelfia en 1852 y fue el primero en organizar un sistema de enseñanza católica diocesana. Como fundador de las escuelas católicas en este país, él aumentado el número de escuelas en su diócesis de dos hasta 100 en ocho años y escribió libros de los catecismos y otros panfletos para enseñar la fe, mientras trabaja para traer buenos maestros a la diócesis. El trabajo de su vida fue el de difundir la fe. El Obispo John Neumann nunca perdió su amor y preocupación por la gente.
En una visita a una parroquia rural, el párroco lo recogió en un vagón con estiércol. Sentado en una plancha que se extendía sobre los contenidos del vagón, John bromeó, “¿Has visto alguna vez tal cortejo para un obispo?” Su capacidad de aprender idiomas que lo había traído a América le llevó a aprender español, francés, italiano y holandés, de modo que pudiera oír confesiones en al menos seis idiomas. Cuando comenzó la inmigración irlandesa, aprendió el gaélico tan bien que una mujer irlandesa comentó, “no es grandioso que tengamos un obispo irlandés!” Una vez en una visita a Alemania regresó a la casa donde se hospedaba empapado por la lluvia. Cuando su anfitrión le sugirió que se cambiara sus zapatos, John comentó, “La única manera de cambiarme mis zapatos es colocando el zapato izquierdo en el pie derecho y el zapato derecho en el pie izquierdo. Este es la único par de zapatos que tengo”.
Las palabras del Señor Jesús de “ir y enseñar y hacer discípulos de todas las naciones” fueron grabadas en los corazones y las mentes de Santa Isabel Ana Seton y San Juan Neumann. Ojalá que estos patronos de la educación en los colegios católicos continúe intercediendo por nosotros mientras nos esforzamos por ser fieles a nuestra visión de “inspirar a los discípulos, abrazar la diversidad y servir a los demás” en nuestro sistema escolar católico de la Diócesis de Jackson.

Still learning from founders of Catholic education

Bishop Kopacz

By Bishop Joseph Kopacz
Catholic Schools Week is celebrated this year from January 28 to February 3 wherever a diocese throughout the United States is blessed to have a Catholic School system. This year’s theme is: Catholic Schools: Learn. Serve. Lead. Succeed. Our legacy of schools in the Diocese of Jackson dates back to 1847 in Natchez before spreading upstream to Vicksburg and Greenville and then gradually fanning out eastward across the State of Mississippi. Because our diocese was the 13th Catholic diocese established in the nation, our Catholic School tradition began not too long after the first Catholic Schools were launched in the United States.
The founding mother and father of Catholic Education were St. Elizabeth Ann Seton and St. John Neumann. Elizabeth Ann Seton (1784-1821) was an Episcopalian believer through half of her life, and a wife and mother of six who always found the time for charitable works and outreach. She became a Catholic after the death of her husband and within a short time founded the Daughters of Charity based upon the rule of Saint Vincent de Paul and his religious community in France. Her mission became faith-based education, stepping out into deep and unchartered waters. She founded the first Catholic School in the United States in 1812, and by 1818 the sisters had established two orphanages and another school. Today, six groups of sisters can trace their origins to Mother Seton’s initial foundation. The following are excerpts from the writings and wisdom of this great matriarch.
“I share your struggles as educators today, and I am with you in that struggle. The signs of the times beg you to be spiritually mature to foster a climate of missionary renaissance faithful to (my) legacy of Catholic Education. Are you convinced of the need of a strategic vision in the name of the Gospel? Are you willing to risk carrying out new ideas that respond to absolute human need?
“What unmet needs exist in your school, parish or community that you can realistically address? How do you interface with public, private and home school networks? What new programs or courses would benefit your students or attract new ones? What timely services do you currently offer which can be extended to others? Are there ways you can combine efforts and resources for new ones? What improvements can be made by adopting new techniques? I invite you to discuss whether your definition of education really meets society’s changing needs.
“In your role as educators, focus on the whole person – teach the lesson and touch the heart. Above all, my friends, teach your pupils about God’s love for them. Oh! Set your gaze on the future and always strive to fit your students for the world in which they are destined to live.
“Good home-school relations were important to me and I often corresponded with parents about their children’s progress-or lack of it. I will tell you, I know American parents to be most difficult in hearing the faults of their children.
“I tried several methods of discipline but always with gentle firmness. I discovered the loss of recreation, deprivation of fruit, or payment of a a penny for good works often worked well. Kneeling down was also the only form of physical punishment I allowed.
“I shunned every form of prejudice or discrimination. Inclusiveness was my goal. My school was founded on the enduring values of respect and equality. I pray that you keep in mind that authentic Christian compassion is expressed universally rather than selectively. This is to be extended to mountain children who are poor, to the Pennsylvania Dutch children, and to the African American children of slaves and free parents whom I myself taught.”
Her Daughters of Charity came to Natchez in 1847 and remained until 2003. Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton was beautified in 1963 and canonized in 1976.
The patriarch of Catholic School education is Saint John Neumann who was born in 1811 in Bohemia in the modern day Czech Republic. After traveling to America he was ordained and entered the Redemptorist Order and faithfully served the poor in Buffalo, New York. Father John Neumann was appointed bishop of Philadelphia in 1852 and was the first to organize a diocesan Catholic school system. As a founder of Catholic Schools in this country, he increased the number of schools in his diocese from two to 100 in eight years and wrote catechisms and other pamphlets to teach the faith, while working to bring good teachers into the diocese. His life’s work was to spread the faith.
Bishop John Neumann never lost his love and concern for the people. On one visit to a rural parish, the parish priest picked him up in a manure wagon. Seated on a plank stretched over the wagon’s contents, John joked, “Have you ever seen such an entorage for a bishop!”
The ability to learn languages that had brought him to America led him to learn Spanish, French, Italian and Dutch so he could hear confessions in at least six languages. When Irish immigration started, he learned Gaelic so well that one Irish woman remarked, “Isn’t it grand that we have an Irish bishop!”
Once on a visit to Germany, he came back to the house he was staying in soaked by rain. When his host suggested he change his shoes, John remarked, “The only way I could change my shoes is by putting the left one on the right foot and the right one on the left foot. This is the only pair I own.”
The words of the Lord Jesus to “go and teach and make disciples of all the nations” were emblazoned in the hearts and minds of Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton and Saint John Neumann. May these patrons of Catholic School education continue to intercede for us as we strive to be faithful to our vision to “inspire disciples, to embrace diversity and to serve others” in our Catholic Schools in the Diocese of Jackson.

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OXFORD – The Pregnancy Center celebrated delivery of the new Toshiba Xario Platinum Ultrasound Machine donated by the Knights of Columbus Council 10901 of St. John Parish with a reception and open house. The machine can determine viability of pregnancy weeks earlier than the previous model. (Photo by Joan Buglewicz)

Parish calendar

SPIRITUAL ENRICHMENT
Assisi Prayer Chain, the power of prayer is available to all those in need through the Assisi Prayer Chain. Details: (601) 874-1061 or (601) 497-3592 between 5-7 p.m.
CHATAWA St. Mary of the Pines Retreat Center, women’s silent retreat, Therese’s Path of Confidence and Love, April 12-15. The depth and breadth of Therese’s “Little Way” continues to have relevance for us today. Presenter: Robin Hebert, a retreat leader and spiritual director from Lafayette and a past president of the Theresians of the United States. Cost: Suggested donation $240 (private rooms only) Details: Sister Sue Von Bank (601) 783-0801 retreatcenter@ssndcp.org.
COLLIERVILLE, Tenn., Women’s Morning of Spirituality Saturday, February 10, Church of the Incarnation, 8:15 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. with a continental breakfast beginning at 7:15 a.m. Mass at 12:30 p.m. with Bishop Martin D. Holley. Details: Hernando Holy Spirit church office (662) 429-7851.
CULLMAN, Ala., Benedictine Sisters Retreat Center, Intensive Centering Prayer Weekend: The Welcoming Prayer, February 22-25. Develop further the discipline of Centering Prayer and deepen your relationship with God. Begins on Thursday instead of Friday. Prerequisite: Introduction to Centering Prayer. Cost: Private Room $325. Details: contact Sister Magdalena Craig, OSB at (256) 615-6114, www.shmon.org.

PARISH, SCHOOL AND FAMILY EVENTS
ABERDEEN St. Francis, Mardi Gras Party after Mass on Sunday, February 11. Bring finger foods. Details: church office (662) 813-2295.
AMORY St. Helen, Spirit of Mississippi, annual retreat for women, the Benedictine Monastery Retreat Center, Cullman, Ala., February 9-11. Cost is $200 and includes retreat materials, lodging and meals. Details: Please see Carlos, Ann or Chris at (662) 256-8392.
St. Helen, our book discussion group has selected Tender at the Bone by Ruth Reichl for discussion at noon on Monday, February 5, at the parish hall. Everyone is invited to read the book and plan to join in the discussion. Details: church office (662) 256-8392.
BROOKHAVEN Central Baptist Church, 970 Highway 550, Life Line Screening, Monday, January 29. Details: (888) 653-6434.
GREENVILLE Sacred Heart, Parish Mission by Father Maurice Nut, a Redemptorist missionary preacher, April 23 – 26. He was the former director of Black Catholic Studies at Xavier University in New Orleans.. Details: parish office (662) 332-0891.
JACKSON St. Peter Cathedral, organ recital by Robert Knupp, Friday, February 9, 7:30 p.m. Knupp is a Professor in the music department at Mississippi College and is also the organist of Galloway United Methodist Church in Jackson. An active performer, he has performed with several symphony orchestras, AGO regional conventions and has been heard nationally on the program “Pipedreams.” Open to the public. Details: church office (601) 969-3125.
MERIDIAN Catholic Community of St. Joseph & St. Patrick, “Our Lady’s Corner.” If your New Year’s resolutions include improving yourself, stop by and see what books we have that may help you. We have many self-help books that approach health, parenting and business from a Catholic/Christian perspective. Located at St. Patrick Parish. Hours are Wednesday 4-6:30 p.m.; Saturday after 5 p.m. Mass; Sunday 9:30 a.m. until after the 11 a.m. Mass. Details: (601) 693-1321.
NATCHEZ St. Mary Basilica, Adult Sunday School, 8:30 Sunday mornings in the O’Connor FLC. No preparation necessary nor any commitment to continue with the group. Details: Karen Verucchi, class facilitator (601) 870-5388.

YOUTH BRIEFS
COVINGTON La., Abbey Youth Fest 2018 “Arise” for youth 8th grade and older, Saturday, March 17. For more information, visit www.abbeyyouthfest.com. Details: Please contact your parish. See page 11 for additional details about the event.
GREENVILLE St. Joseph School, Open House, Thursday, February 1, 8 a.m. – 3 p.m. Show your Irish Pride – Get your Shamrock Car Decal Today for $5. Details: school office (662) 378-9711.
JACKSON St. Richard School Krewe de Cardinal, Friday, Feb. 9, 7 – 10 p.m., at the Railroad District, located at 824 South Street in Jackson. This Mardi Gras-themed party features live music, a live and silent auction and dancing. Tickets are $100 per couple Details: (601)366-1157
MADISON St. Joseph School, 2018 Drawdown, Jeans, Jazz and Bruin Blues. Saturday, February 3. 6:30 – 9:30 p.m. Details: Tickets may be purchased online at www.stjoedrawdown.com or at the school. (601) 898-4800.

SAVE THE DATE
World Marriage Day, the Catholic Diocese of Jackson and the Office of Family Ministry is pleased to announce that the diocesan World Marriage Day celebration will be held Sunday, February 4, at 3 p.m. at the Cathedral of St. Peter the Apostle in Jackson. There will be Mass with a reception immediately following. The Mass honors all married couples, but invites those celebrating their 25th, 50th and 60th anniversaries or any significant anniversary. Please contact your parish office for registration details. For additional information, or questions, please call the Office of Family Ministry at 601-960-8487 or email Charlene Bearden at charlene.bearden@jacksondiocese.org .

Young adults want to be heard by the church, study finds

LINTHICUM, Md. (CNS) – It’s no secret that for years, teenagers and young adults have been leaving the Catholic Church, putting aside organized religion for a more personal spirituality, another faith tradition or no faith at all.
A new study by St. Mary’s Press looks at the reasons for such religious disaffiliation, asking teenagers and young adults ages 15 to 25 a basic question: Why did you leave the church?
The answers reported in the study, titled “Going, Going, Gone: The Dynamics of Disaffiliation of Young Catholics,” vary widely with respondents citing sociological, familial and spiritual reasons as well as opposition to organized religion.
What’s key to the study, said John Vitek, CEO and president of St. Mary’s Press, is that the process gave young people a voice, something which has not happened often within the church.
He made the comments during the Jan. 16 release of the findings at the Maritime Conference Center near Baltimore.
“We wanted to hear in young people’s own words their lived experience and their stories. So we spent time listening to young people throughout the country, to hear their stories in their own words, uncensored and unfiltered,” he said.
The study’s release coincided with a 90-minute symposium that included two young adults, a priest, a sociologist who studies religious affiliation trends and an audience of about 200 people from parishes and dioceses throughout the country.
The discussion occurred on the first day of a three-day invitation-only meeting of 65 Catholic leaders, many of whom work in diocesan and parish youth and young adult ministries.
The two-year study found that religious disaffiliation is a process and often begins with questions about faith, doubts and hurts that accumulate over time “until it’s too much,” Vitek said. The process begins at an early age, sometimes as young as 10 years old.
The study also found that the median age for young people to leave the church was 13 even though teenagers may have continued attending Mass with their families because they felt pressured to do so.
Vitek added that almost all respondents interviewed said they felt more freedom and were happier after leaving the church.
Father Edmund Luciano, director of development in the Diocese of Metuchen, New Jersey, and a former diocesan director of youth and young adult ministry, said during the discussion that 13 years old was too young to “be allowed to make decision like that.”
“I see a breakdown in this in the home and in the parents,” Father Luciano said. “They are the primary teachers of the faith. They are the role models and the examples. I don’t think the kids are doing anything wrong. I look to the parents wondering why they’re not supporting the growth of their kids.”
The priest and others suggested that the church must better equip parents, teachers and ministry leaders to not shy away from questions young people have about faith.
Panelist Father Joseph Muth, pastor of St. Matthew Parish in Baltimore, said teenagers often have many questions about life and that personal religious life was no exception.
“It’s the normal process of growing up. In that moment we need someone to trust the questions being asked and to be equipped to give an answer,” he said. Many in the audience nodded in agreement.
Christina Hannon, young adult engagement officer with the Coalition with Young Adults in Northeast Ohio, who was in the audience, said she has learned that young adults are looking for a place to be welcomed. If a parish is not welcoming, she suggested, a young person may decide to abandon the church altogether.
Panelist Beatriz Mendivil came to the U.S. from Mexico at age 12 with her family and grew up Catholic but left the church at age 20 to explore other options. She said she began wondering about church practices, particularly confessing sins as a 10-year-old.
“I was so ashamed I had to sit there and talk to a complete stranger,” she said, adding, “I felt … just awful and this person was just sitting there telling me that I was not good. As a 10-year-old I think that’s not fair. I think that creates a trauma for a young child.”
She said she now finds peace and clarity in a “higher power,” whether it is in nature, her family or even her pets.
The conversation returned repeatedly to the question of whether young people are heard by church leaders or others who can guide them through the questions they have.
Vitek said respondents thanked those conducting the study for the opportunity to speak because they had not been given such an opportunity before.
Often, the questions young people have challenge religious institutions, said panelist Josh Packard, associate professor of sociology at the University of Northern Colorado, whose work includes studies on how religion drives people away from church but not from God.
He said the challenge facing religious institutions is not to change tenets but to make sure that they adhere to core values “about who we serve and what we’re here for” so that young people do not feel ignored.
The study began in 2015 when St. Mary’s Press, based in Winona, Minnesota, contracted with the Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate at Georgetown University in Washington to conduct a survey of young people from 15 to 25 years old who left the Catholic Church. It started with a pool of 3,450 randomly selected young people of which 1,435 completed the screening process.
The full report resulted from interviews with 204 young people – 20 teenagers and 184 young adults – who once self-identified as Catholic but now do not.
From the sample, the study estimated that 12.8 percent of U.S. young adults between 18 and 25 years old and 6.8 percent of teenagers 15 to 17 years old are former Catholics.
In the larger pool, 20 percent said they were no longer Catholic because they stopped believing in God or religion; 16 percent cited an issue with family or parents leading to their decision to leave; 15 percent changed faiths on their own while their family remained Catholic and 11 percent said they left Catholicism because of growing opposition to the church or religious institutions in general.
The study also found that 74 percent of the sample said that they no longer identified themselves as Catholic between the ages of 10 and 20 with the median age being 13. More than one-third, 35 percent, have no religious affiliation, 46 percent joined another religion and 14 percent said they were atheists or agnostics.
The margin of error is plus or minus 6.9 percentage points.
The study broadly categorized respondents into three categories – the injured, the drifters and the dissenters – based on the reasons given for leaving the church.
It also outlined a series of reasons respondents gave for their religious disaffiliation including family disruption; hypocrisy within the church; disconnection between belief and practice of the faith; lack of companions on a spiritual journey; disagreement with church teachings, particularly same-sex marriage, abortion and contraception; issues with teachings about the Bible including salvation, heaven and life after death; and disillusionment and frustration that their questions about faith were never answered or that they never had the opportunity to ask them in the first place.
The study follows a Pew Research Center study released in 2015 that outlined the religious landscape in the country and uncovered the rapid increase in people without any religious affiliation, who are sometimes referred to as the “nones.”
Pew researchers found in 2014 that 22.8 percent of Americans said they were religiously unaffiliated, up from 16.1 percent in 2007. The percentage of the unaffiliated rises to 36 percent for young adults 18 to 24 years old and 34 percent for adults in the 25- to 33-year old range, according to Pew.
Pew estimated overall that about 56 million U.S. adults had no religious affiliation.
The discussion at the Maritime Conference Center was recorded and was to be broadcast Jan. 25 by Minnesota Public Radio.

National Migration Week tells story of many journeys, one family

By Maureen Smith
How can the church minister to and be strengthened by a new wave of immigrants from South and Central America? According to Dr. Hossfman Ospino, an associate professor of Hispanic ministry and religious education at Boston College, both the nation and the church have done it before and will be able to do it again. Ospino came to the Diocese of Jackson to lead and participate in a series of workshops and encounters in deanery five as part of National Migration Week, Jan. 7-13.
The U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops has been organizing a theme and providing educational materials for National Migration Week for almost 50 years as an opportunity for the Church to reflect on the circumstances confronting migrants, including immigrants, refugees, children, and victims and survivors of human trafficking.
“The theme of National Migration Week 2018 was ‘Many Journeys, One Family.’ In this context, Dr. Ospino gave a conference to pastors, Lay Ecclesial Ministers, leaders from different parishes and diocesan offices about the history of migration and how this phenomenon is re-defining the Catholicism in the 21st century,” explained Danna Johnson, coordinator of Hispanic Ministry for Pontotoc St. Christopher and head of the Catholic Charities office in Vardaman. “This was a learning experience and an opportunity to re-affirm our missionary spirit as one church here in this diocese,” she added.
In a recent article in America Magazine, Ospino compared the current influx of immigrants to when European Catholics poured into the States. Father Tim Murphy, pastor of Tupelo St. James Parish said he was encouraged by what he heard. “It’s challenging, but it’s possible. We have done this before, we have met the needs of other immigrant groups and we can do it again now,” he said. For both the European immigrants and the Hispanic immigrants, the church is at the center of their cultural experience so their presence is an opportunity to strengthen the church overall.
Father Murphy said Ospino’s statistics and suggestions “really affirm a lot of what we have been doing in this mission diocese.”
Father Murphy said beyond just research, Ospino brings a practical eye to his presentations. “He comes from a hands-on background. He did mission work and pastoral work and retreat work from the time he was 16-years old.”
Amelia McGowan, who heads the Catholic Charities Migrant Support Services, presented a video called “The Cost of Deportation.” The video is meant to raise awareness about what is happening in communities right here and help people comprehend the importance of knowing their rights. She also offered a free legal clinic to families who might have questions about their particular immigration status.
“Many Hispanic families from deanery five attended a unique presentation by Father Octavio Escobar and Ospino. Both presenters were able to challenge our roles as baptized, as Christians, and as immigrant Catholics in our communities,” Johnson said. “Father Octavio based his presentation on the article Dr. Ospino wrote in America Magazine,” she added.
On Friday, despite plummeting temperatures and ice and sleet pressing into the area, Ospino visited Vardaman. While there, he toured a sweet potato packing plant and took advantage of an opportunity to listen to a diverse group of local citizens and the advisory board of Northeast office of Catholic Charities, Inc. The group was able to share the challenges and opportunities all face in attending the different needs in this rural area of Mississippi. “He told me later this rural experience was new to him so the visit to Vardaman was mutually beneficial,” said Father Murphy.
“The outcome of this week was to have an opportunity to come together, as one family, to share, learn, and celebrate the Culture of Encounter,” said Johnson. “We believe that Amelia, Father Octavio, and Ospino made that possible. We all are blessed beyond measure with their presence among us,” she added.
“What we heard really ties in with the (Diocesan) Pastoral Plan to embrace diversity and inspire disciples,” said Father Murphy. He said he hopes he can host Ospino in Mississippi again at a later date.
To learn more about National Migration Week, go to https://www.sharejourney.org