Nails, not china, on couple's Habitat gift list
By Christine Bordelon
NEW ORLEANS (CNS) — Instead of receiving china, crystal and silver as wedding gifts, Leora Madden and Tony Gambell will accept nails, windows, doors, hinges and other building materials.
That’s because the engaged couple invited friends and family to purchase building materials for a Habitat for Humanity home as an alternative to traditional wedding gifts. Their bridal registry Website — www.leoraandtonyhabitathouse.com — is complete with a PayPal feature, and donations are tax-deductible.
“Tony’s involvement professionally and personally motivated us to register for a Habitat house,” Madden said. “We both have everything we need and felt this was an opportunity to give to others in a unique way.”
They hope to raise $50,000 in materials to sponsor a Habitat home in Bay St. Louis, Miss., Madden’s hometown, to be built sometime in 2009. “We’re going to help build the house we are raising money for, and I’m sure we’re going to get others to help us,” she said.
The couple announced on their web- site they had “chosen to share some of the joy of our wedding with the Bay Waveland Habitat for Humanity.” Since April when the website was posted, several thousand dollars in materials have been donated.
“Everyone has been very supportive and encouraging,” said Madden, 29. “My bridesmaids have commented they can’t wait to pick out something for the house.”
Madden expects more donations before their Nov. 1 nuptials and has a commitment from the Salvation Army and Red Cross to donate the last $10,000 of materials.
“We’re going to raise as much money as we can through the wedding, and we’ll try to cover the rest,” she told the Clarion Herald, newspaper of the New Orleans Archdiocese.
Madden said she asked Habitat for Humanity International if the wedding idea had ever been done. “No one else to our knowledge has set up a website like this,” she said, “but there are people who are copying us, we’re happy to say.”
Madden, a Catholic, and Gambell, 32, who was raised Lutheran in Minnesota but now lives in Chicago, first met in California six years ago through a mutual friend. Gambell was in graduate school in Boston, and Madden was entering graduate school in Jackson, Miss. That initial meeting produced no sparks, but the two kept in touch through their friends.
Then in 2007, Madden moved to New Orleans, and Gambell e-mailed her that he was going to be in town helping build the 1,000th Habitat for Humanity home with former President Jimmy Carter and hoped to catch up.
At this juncture, they were at different stages in their lives.
Gambell had a master’s degree in mechanical engineering from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, was a business consultant and helped build approximately 33 Habitat homes during his free time since Hurricane Katrina hit the Gulf Coast in 2005.
Madden had earned a master’s degree with an emphasis in political science and history from the University of Southern Mississippi, and was working as a regional tech specialist with MacMillan Publishing.
“Timing is everything,” Madden said. “God brings people together at a certain time for a certain reason. We truly believe that. It never would have worked when we first met.”
By October, five months later, Gambell proposed marriage at a Habitat house in Bay St. Louis that he helped build. He even corralled Habitat friends to present Madden with her favorite flower, Gerber daisies, after he popped the question.
“All of a sudden, he was on his knees,” Madden said. “I was in such shock I didn’t fully understand what was happening. He said, ‘Since you won’t marry me at a Habitat house, would you get engaged to me at one?’ Of course, I said yes!”
“Everything with Habitat brought us together,” Madden said, adding groomsmen, Ken Meinert and Bryan Kidd, became their friends through Habitat.
Madden said marriage preparations have gone smoothly, even though she currently lives in Kenner and he in Chicago. They have worked with Deacon Drea Capaci on Catholic pre-wedding counseling and will attend an Engaged Encounter weekend.
The only hitch she encountered was changing her plans from marrying at Our Lady of the Gulf Church in Bay St. Louis to Holy Name of Jesus in New Orleans, because Mississippi is still recovering from Hurricane Katrina.
But Bay St. Louis is coming back, one family at a time, Madden said, and she and Gambell are part of that effort through Habitat.
She said each Habitat home represents hope and opportunity by helping another family get into permanent housing and rebuilding neighborhoods in her home state.
